Relationships break up for a myriad of reasons and quite often it is nobody’s fault. Sometimes, things just don’t work out.
A break up or divorce and be one of the most stressful and painful experiences in life not only because it represents a loss of the partnership, but also everything that you have invested, the dreams and commitments that you have share over the years.
Whether you are doing the ‘breaking up’ or the one having been rejected you will be feeling a range of difficult emotions such as profound disappointment, stress and grief. It is normal to experience these feeling and it can take time to get over the loss of a relationship
Reason for the split
Whatever the reason for the split – and whether it was your decision or not – the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sort s of painful and unsettling emotions.
Being mindful of others
If you are thinking of breaking up with someone, try to be considerate about how you end the relationship. Always consider how you would like to be treated in the same situation. Try to end things in a way that respects the other person but be honest. Be clear and tell the other person why the relationship is over. Understand that the other person might be hurt and possible angry about your decision. Try to end the relationship in person if it’s possible, rather than by text or online.
The Relationship Reboot Programme
Are you looking to “save” or “break” a relationship? We look at:
- the relationship is dysfunctional and on the point of dissolution?
- the relationship is functional but unrewarding in or some other way unhappy?
Depending on your answer we will consider:
- do you want to ‘save it’ or ‘breakup’?
- how well are you coping with the breakup?
- what support you need to break up with someone respectfully
- moving on from a recent or past relationship
The programme offers two levels:
- basic level – which works with individuals and straightforward issues. It also works with your feelings alone and doesn’t examine the behaviour of others in any great detail. It is effective and fast, taking up to four sessions.
- compound level – is the Gold Standard, looks at every possible cause and solution, taking into account the way others behave, personality clashes, conflict to see how we can resolve them. This looks at the entire dynamics and interaction within the relationship and far more thorough, takes longer but also helps to stop future issues instead of fixing current ones. This level can take at least ten weeks to complete.
- The programme can work with business, familial, and emotional relationships and can work with an individual or a couple.
- The minimum number of sessions would be five.